Most of us have been there—your with your partner(s) and things get so exciting that no matter how hard you try you just can’t keep from climaxing. Although it feels good in the moment, you then come to the realization that what you’ve been waiting for is gone in the blink of an eye. FUCK. Maybe if you continue to play things will pick back up? Maybe not. Maybe you can orgasm again? Maybe not. But there is definitely a feeling of disappointment… This, my friends, is Rapid Ejaculation (I feel like that introduction needed some kind of dramatic music).
1 in 3 Penis Owners Are Affected by Rapid Ejaculation
When it comes to Erectile Dysfunction (ED), Rapid Ejaculation is a pretty common, affecting 1 in 3 penis owners in their lifetime (See! You’re not alone!). However, some people experience it as an ongoing problem, which can cause a lot of anxiety and embarrassment. And if you know anything about anxiety and embarrassment, you know that people try to avoid those feelings at all costs. I mean, how is sex enjoyable when you feel a ton of pressure to perform? Unfortunately, when you avoid what makes you anxious, anxiety has a nasty way of getting bigger and stronger, resulting in EVEN MORE anxiety (jerk!).
So What Can Be Done?
There’s hope! RE is treatable; all it can take is a bit of practice and some support from a trained professional. For example, often times individuals with RE have difficulty pacing when it comes to erotic fantasy and stimulation. They may go from 0-100 very quickly, resulting in difficulty holding back and slowing down. Or maybe you and your partner are engaging in the most stimulating activities right at the beginning of your play; consequently, treatment for RE is very much about slowing down, being present in the moment and pacing yourself. When working with a sex therapist they will likely recommend different activities while masturbating and/or with a partner that will help you practice the skills necessary to last longer and reduce anxiety.
REMEMBER: if you are concerned about your health and wonder if your RE is related to a medical issue ALWAYS consult with an MD to rule out larger, possibly life threatening, issues.
Interested in learning more about the treatment for Rapid Ejaculation?
Coping with Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Pleasure Your Partner & Have Great Sex (M. Metz, Ph.D. & B. McCarthy, Ph.D., 2003).
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