By: Deb K.

Entering the BDSM scene at the tender age of 18, I wanted to try it all – well, just about everything. I’d heard of pet play and even seen some done, but I never thought it would be for me. While role-play was fascinating to me, I simply never saw myself embodying any type of “role” other than that of a submissive masochist. That all changed, however, once an incredibly arousing lucid dream piqued my curiosity. I knew then that I had to get my feet (paws?) wet to truly understand how it would feel to take on the role of a pet. I chose to play as a kitten because it felt like the most natural fit for my personality. I loved the notion of how playing as a kitten could allow for independence as well as nurturing and I easily fell into the headspace my very first time.

On All Fours…

It was at a local dungeon that I finally took my first steps – on all fours – into the role of a kitty. I was playing with some friends who knew that it was my first time taking on a new role. They helped me dress and gear up and, with that, I slowly began to meld into the headspace until my human form seemed to slip away entirely and I found myself in full-on kitty mode. I remember when I was being taken for a walk. I started off in one room of the dungeon and, though initially nervous about the thought of leaving that room and actually padding through the dungeon in front of everyone, I eased myself into the mindset and off I went. While some like to do pet play for humiliation purposes, this wasn’t what I had in mind and my initial fear was of being seen by strangers in such a vulnerable mindset and role. Luckily, my fears were unfounded. Everyone wanted to pet this pretty kitty and I lapped up the attention as if it were a saucer full of milk. In fact, upon seeing a familiar pair of legs belonging to a friend of mine, I sweetly crawled up to her and nuzzled her ankles. From that point on, I was hooked!

Becoming Baby Leopard

Over the years, my pet play experience has only gotten better and more evolved. I discovered my breed – a baby leopard (I’m a big fan of The Maxx, obviously) and began investing in some gear of my own that was made for rough play: knee pads, leather mitts, several different lovely pairs of ears, and, just recently, a proper tail. My partner and I have been together for five years and I made sure early on to lay all my cards out on the table. I let him know about pretty much all my kinks, but felt somewhat hesitant to reveal my kitty side. Once again, my fears were assuaged when we did our first pet play scene together. He fell into the role of trainer so naturally and my personal kitty headspace was so easy to get into and maintain because of this. Over the years, we’ve grown as a couple in many ways, especially as owner and pet.

The Great Thing About Pet Play…

I love pet play so much because it allows for a truly visceral experience and sense of escapism. I’m the kind of person who lives in my own head more than is necessary. What I mean is, I’m a classic over-thinker. When it’s kitty time, however, the only thing I have to worry about is pleasing my owner, getting pets and scratches, having treats, and, on occasion, doing tricks. Though the last is probably uncharacteristic for a feline, the great thing about pet play and role-play in general is the fact that creative liberties can be taken in order to preserve the headspace and dynamic. It’s not about authenticity, but about having fun and nurturing that special connection between players. Had I not dared to give pet play a try, I think my outlook on BDSM would be incredibly different and, quite possibly, less fulfilling. While pet play may not be for everyone, I am proud to say that my kitty bed is a place I proudly call “home”.

About The Author:



Deb is a kinky writer with many years of experience in the BDSM community. She loves sharing stories of her personal journey as well as creating delightful and titillating erotica. A Rocky Horror alum and current burlesque performer, you can find her strutting her stuff all around the Los Angeles area.


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